Memories have been strong this week because of Father's Day, Flag Day and what would have been our parents 78th wedding anniversary. One of the memories is of how often Dad could get me in trouble at meetings. Sitting next to Dad could be a challenge because he would make comments causing at least smiles if not laughter. No one ever "blamed" him especially if it was a meeting he was wearing his clerical collar. Mom used to ask if she needed to sit between us.
The other memory is about names and reactions. I went back to my maiden name at the time of my divorce. The problem was people would look at Dad, and me, like we must be "together." Calling him Dad didn't change anything because a lot of his generation called their spouse "Mom" or "Dad." Having Mom standing next to us didn't change anything either. Dad, and I, got to where we just laughed, because - like I've said - it is easier to laugh than to start screaming.
And....... the memories still cause smiles at least. Good memories to have.....